MARY'S PRAYER CONNECTION

In the last few days I have heard many different people on radio and television ask the question. Where has civility gone? I too am wondering about the most recent displays of adult behavior which not too long ago would have been considered rude, crude and unattractive by the majority. However, for some reason many people are applauding this behavior as acceptable, justifiable normal adult behavior.

Seeing senior citizens screaming at each other and politicians. Seeing adults of various ages screaming vulgar explicatives at politicians and others. Seeing signs with words, which would have been considered treason even forty years ago. Seeing adults of all ages calling others names which are degrading and often imbecilic. I am in a state of shock over what I have heard and witnessed in recent weeks.

I recall when name calling was a sign of ignorance, a sign the person speaking is too uneducated to speak grammatically in complete sentences. What I conclude from all of this is, the state of affairs in the United States is the worst we have seen since the 1920's when teens decided being rude and intolerant of adults was the intelligent thing to do. Then came the 1960's when doing your own thing and if it feels good do it, mentality  was the in thing. During these years we witnessed the tragadies of the race wars. I for one do not believe this is the direction we are heading as some folks believe.

For several years we were being told that within in a few years there will be more blacks than whites in this country. Now we are hearing mexican immigrants are the fastest growing group in the US. Does this frighten both blacks and whites alike?

It appears the election of President Obama has set off a new phenomena never experienced in this country.  Everyone is afraid ! Fear is a primary emotion which when unresolved generates anger, a secondary emotion. The real source of our problem is not a problem of color it is a problem of unresolved fear causing spontaneous combustions all over the country. Never in the history of the country have we seen such utter lack of self control among senior citizens.

We are lacking the ability to stop and think before speaking out in verbal tirades of illogical and irrational verbage. Adults have lost control of the ability to think clearly, which results in sputtering incoherent sentences. Many have lost their ability to speak a sentence lacking in explicatives, insults and angry words.

This is what fear does to people who have lost faith in themselves and others. It does not matter who our leaders are we are the adults of this nation. We are acting as though we have lost complete control of our senses. I expect to begin hearing about kids calling the "men in the white coats" to come get their parents and grandparents who have lost their minds.

Unresolved fear leads to anger. Unless we are able to deal with fear we cannot prevent anger from overtaking our thoughts and ruling our behavior. Eventually we will explode into angry, verbal and or physical attacks against others. Worst than this are those who turn on themselves and self-destruct.

It is time for each of us to stop, look within and think about what we are doing and saying. It is time to look in the mirror and find the real self. I do not believe the people we are seeing in news reports, on facebook and other social networks are the real US.

The people of the United States are better people than we have been seeing in the past couple of months. It is time for the real Americans to stand up for life, liberty and pursuit of happiness through logical, coherent dialogue. It is time to drop all the uncivil ramblings.

Fear is the real problem. Resolving personal fear is the first and most important answer to the question of where has civility gone. The internal pressure of fear is bringing thousands of citizens to a boiling point and we are seeig the results of unresolved fear.

God grant us the knowledge to name our fears; the wisdom to resolve them before they turn to anger; and the good sense to think before we speak.